Much has changed since my last post right at 2 years ago. I found myself at a crossroads back then and made a choice. And since then, I've been toiling with how I ended up where I am and why I am so much happier now than I was then.
After searching through books on relationships and self-improvement, I finally found one that made sense of my life: Essential Manners for Couples by Peter Post. I realized that I did what I could to be courteous to everyone and the person with whom I shared my life for 12 years could not--not only did he choose not to, but I really believe that he just could not do it. I've learned by reading this book (and I'm only halfway through it) that I need a relationship in which both parties are considerate, respectful, and honest with each other, as well as strangers they pass on the street. A couple is not just Jack and Jill, but also JackandJill (lack of spaces intentional). Their actions both as individuals and as a couple reflect on one another, and themselves as one entity.
I have since found that someone to be with who is considerate, respectful, and honest, as well as loving, kind, and expresses his gratitude often. Having this in my relationship may not be important to anyone else, but it is important to me and brings peace to my life, oh, so easily. I love him dearly.
I don't understand how or why I got to where I am today, but I am a better person for it.
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